Monday, December 9, 2013

November 2013 Newsletter

The Grand Rapids Friends Monthly Meeting meets for worship at the Browne Center,
On the campus of Aquinas College, 2001 Robinson Rd. SE, Grand Rapids,
At 10:30 a.m. on First Days (Sundays).
Following Meeting for Worship each month:
First First Day: Potluck Lunch
Second First Day: Meeting for Worship with Attention to Business
Third First Day: Program
Fourth First Day: Singing. Advancement and Ministry and Nurture Committees meet at 9:00 a.m.

LEYM ADVICES AND QUERIES: SELF-DISCIPLINE

Simplicity, beauty, and happiness go together if they are a by-product of a concern for something more important than ourselves.--Elise Boulding, My part in the Quaker adventure, p. 21.

Do we center our lives in the awareness of the presence of God so that all things take their rightful place? What most distracts us from God? What are we ready to release so that we can give our attention to what matters most?

Do we regard our possessions as given to us in trust? How freely do we part with them to meet the needs of others? How do we manage our commitments so that over-commitment, worry, and stress do not diminish our integrity?

Do we keep to moderation and simplicity in our daily lives? To what extent do we allow prevailing culture and media to pressure us into buying what we do not need, more than we need, or more than we can afford? How do we recognize when we have enough? Are we mindful to encourage our children toward these values?

LEYM’s Advices & Queries, for Use by Individual Friends, Meetings, and Worship Groups is available online

Other Friends Meetings in Our Area

  • Holland Friends Meeting For information, please contact Greg Murray at 616-994-7282
  • Fremont Worship Group For information, please contact Theresa Lindsay 
  • Manitou Worship Group For information, please contact Doris Loll at 231-882-7062. 
  • Pine River Worship Group For information, please contact Don Nagler    


November—December Greeters (subject to change) 

  • November 3: Gerard and Judi 
  • November 10: Walt Marston 
  • November 17: Robert Maluchnik 
  • November 24: Gerard and Judi 
  • December 1: Holadays 
  • December 8: Rangers 
  • December 15: Walt Marston 
  • December 22: Robert Maluchnik 
  • December 29: Gerard and Judi

December 2013 Newsletter

LEYM ADVICES AND QUERIES: SIMPLICITY

Simplicity, beauty, and happiness go together if they are a by-product of a concern for something more important than ourselves.
    Elise Boulding, My Part in the Quaker Adventure, p. 21.

Do we center our lives in the awareness of the presence of God so that all things take their rightful place? What most distracts us from God? What are we ready to release so that we can give our attention to what matters most? 

Do we regard our possessions as given to us in trust? How freely do we part with them to meet the needs of others? How do we manage our commitments so that over-commitment, worry, and stress do not diminish our integrity?

Do we keep to moderation and simplicity in our daily lives? To what extent do we allow prevailing culture and media to pressure us into buying what we do not need, more than we need, or more than we can afford?  How do we recognize when we have enough? Are we mindful to encourage our children toward these values?

LEYM’s Advices & Queries, for Use by Individual Friends, Meetings, and Worship Groups is available online 


December-January Greeters (subject to change)
  • December 1:                         Holadays
  • December 8:                         Rangers
  • December 15:                       Walt Marston
  • December 22:                       Robert Maluchnik
  • December 29:                       Gerard and Judi
  • January 5:                               Rangers
  • January 12:                            Walt Marston
  • January 19:                            Robert Maluchnik
  • January 26:                            Gerard and Judi

On the Calendar
  • Dec. 15: HOPEGrows, a United Methodist group teaching youth gardening skills, hosts a neighborhood community celebration from 5:30-8:00 p.m. at La Nueva Esperanza/Hope Center, 1933 Buchanan, Grand Rapids. Craft activities and Christmas singing. Doors open at 5:30, dinner served at 6:00 p.m.. Volunteers are needed to help serve, decorate and clean up. Spanish speakers are especially encouraged to volunteer! Contact Charlie Snedeker (616-706-0903 or  chariliesnedeker@gmail.com).
  • Dec. 22: Worship in the manner of Friends will be gathered at the Bradley Indian Mission, 695 128th Ave., Shelbyville, MI, at 6:00 p.m. A potluck dinner follows.
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From the Wider World of Quakerism: Passion without Apologies 
Ed. note: From time to time I receive emails from emergency room physician and Quaker Brad Cotton, who lives in Circleville, Ohio. A version of this letter he wrote appeared in the Circleville Herald on 23 Oct 2013.

I love to engage the crowd Saturday afternoons standing just outside the Democratic Party booth at the Pumpkin Show. I was prepared to discuss the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act (PPACA), seeing as Pres. Obama and congressional Democrats had finally, finally shown some much-needed moxie and stood firm against the Republicans.
  
One self-identified Republican visited our booth, coming in out of the cold rain. He asked for me by name, then told me I perhaps was “too passionate” about health care reform. I’m too passionate?! About advocating for patients who die, suffer, and are ruined financially in our current market based system?

I asked my visitor what he was passionate about, passionate enough to deny real folks real care while costing the nation $24 billion in the Republicans’ Custer’s Last Stand shutdown? Reaganesque trickle-down free-market theory maybe? That has redistributed our nation’s wealth upwards for 30 years, leaving more and more of us impoverished and powerless.

All political questions are in fact moral questions. The question I asked my visitor was, do we continue to allow people to suffer and die in our nation because their job does not provide health insurance? If the answer is, “Let ‘em die!” as the crowd shouted at a Republican 2012 presidential debate, then I am ashamed of my country. The PPACA is deeply flawed—it amounts to giving taxpayer dollars to middlemen health insurers—but it is the best reform the realpolitik in the US would allow. Real efficiency and compassion would have been single payer Medicare for all.

Every time I talk to a Republican the theme of “makers and takers” comes out. Like other Republicans I’ve talked to, my visitor voiced his deeply held belief that a bunch of useless and undeserving lazy folks are living parasitically off the labors of their betters. I admitted it does Continued from p. 2

happen. There are indeed folks who do not contribute meaningfully to society. How do we motivate them without harming innocents? How do we reach their brokenness?

 “Useless takers” are not what I see in the emergency department. I see folks working two jobs, stretching every dollar, going without care, suffering and dying because they don’t have health insurance. I invited my Republican visitor, as we continued to talk, to come with me to the ER and look into the eyes of those his politics would condemn, and tell them why they must be sacrificed on the altar of health insurers’ profits and small government.

We need just as big a government as it takes to insure liberty and true justice for all. That means we pay for health care, education, Social Security first, right off the top. Then, once these essential and moral functions of human society are taken care of, and only then, we can have luxuries like tax cuts for those who need them least.

The market may decide who has a bigger flat screen TV and who drives a bigger Hummer. The market must not decide under any circumstances who lives and who dies, who has truly equal access to education and truly equal opportunities.

I make no apologies about passionately working for this, the real American Dream.

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Repairing Christianity’s Damaged Brand
Ed. note: A version of this essay by Sally Steenland, director of The Faith and Progressive Policy Initiative, Center for American Progress, appeared online on the Center’s website on 4 Dec. 2013. 

One of the saddest and most damaging consequences of the Religious Right's grip on partisan power over the past three decades has been the tarnishing of Christianity.
Since the 1980s, this organized political force of extremely conservative Christians has inserted its theological views into federal and state laws and attempted to impose its doctrines on a diverse, pluralistic nation. Leaders in the Religious Right have partnered with conservatives in the Republican Party to oppose LGBT equality, women's reproductive health and rights, the teaching of evolution in schools, government safety net programs for the poor, and more.
In the process, the Religious Right has grabbed the media microphone and claimed Christianity all for itself. As a result many people, especially those who are younger, now equate Christianity with intolerance, bigotry, anti-intellectualism, exclusion, rigidity, stinginess and lack of compassion.
But a more inclusive and generous brand of Christianity is increasingly making itself known, a Christianity that goes back to Jesus and threads its way through history. This prophetic, justice-minded Christianity has a proud tradition of standing up for abolition, civil rights, the poor and vulnerable, peace and equality. It is invitational rather than exclusive, communal rather than individualistic, and compassionate rather than harsh.
Those who follow it are dedicating their lives to a wide range of justice issues. They’re joining with immigration activists to bring attention to the suffering of undocumented immigrants and the urgent need to pass immigration reform legislation. They’re speaking out against the tragedy of urban violence and advocating for commonsense measures to reduce gun violence. They’re fighting for Americans struggling to survive because slashed funding for nutrition assistance and other programs has reduced or eliminated help for millions of our children, low-wage workers, the elderly and the disabled.
Such faith leaders are urging America to live up to its calling and core identity.

Many of those working on these issues say they sense new energy around their efforts as the Religious Right loses its grip on the public imagination and conscience. The Right’s harsh brand of Christianity, with its devil's pact with free-market fundamentalism, has ruined lives and shattered livelihoods long enough. What's more, its judgmental rhetoric starves the soul.
Change happens when collective urges and values find public expression and action. Many have noticed how Pope Francis, in office less than a year, has urged the church to be more compassionate and welcoming, cautioning it against exclusion and judgment. The pope has called for connection with the people—for a church that is "bruised, hurting and dirty because it has been out on the streets, rather than a church which is unhealthy from being confined and from clinging to its own security."
To me, and I'm sure to many others, those words are nourishment for a hungry soul.

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The Grand Rapids Friends' Newsletter is edited and compiled by Mike Holaday, convener of Advancement. Thank you, Friend!






Thursday, November 21, 2013

Bayard Rustin awarded Presidential Medal of Freedom

National Black Justice Coalition has a page honoring Bayard Rustin, who was just awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom.

First Day School Soup this Sunday

This First Day (the 24th) the kids would like to invite everyone to join us after worship for a soup lunch and book sale. We will have a pot of broth cooking in the kitchen - please bring something to add to the pot or to accompany the soup. Also bring your unwanted books. We will display the books for sale. Proceeds will go toward the next First Day School project, and leftover books will be incorporated into the Friends library or donated to another worthy cause. Thanks!

Saturday, November 2, 2013

LEYM Peace Committee: event in Kalamazoo

Kalamazoo Friends Meeting will host Josh Ruebner, author of the new book Shattered Hopes, during its First Hour discussion on Sunday, November 24, 9:30–10:20 am. 

He will also speak at Western Michigan University the evening before, on Saturday, November 23, 7:00 pm., in Room 211 of the Bernhard Center.  

All Friends are welcome and encouraged to attend this event and become part of the conversation.

Memorial service for Kalamazoo Friend Richard Mehl

Richard C. Mehl died October 31, 2013 at age 73. Richard was born December 13, 1939, in Akron, Ohio, son of Dr. L.B. and Marjorie Mehl. He was a gifted thinker, starting before high school to develop the interests and knowledge of a scholar. He studied mathematics, science, literature, music, philosophy, politics and history. He later extended his interests into psychology and religion.

The passions of his life were social justice and life-long learning. By high school, he had become a socialist who valued individual freedom. He opposed violence and was a conscientious objector during the Vietnam War, serving his alternative service as a research assistant at Western Reserve Medical Center in Cleveland. He greatly respected Eugene Debs and Martin Luther King, Jr. for their social conscience and activism. Always searching for an antidote to human cruelty, in his later years he found great meaning in the writings of American polymath Ernest Becker, and he became an active donor to the Ernest Becker Society.

He loved the arts as an expression of human spiritual achievement, especially classical music, which he felt was the pinnacle of human aesthetic expression. He put his appreciation into practice by playing the recorder in a Kalamazoo group "Wind Forest."

He met the love of his life in the Kalamazoo Friends Meeting in 1971 and they were married on September 25, 1976. He shared with Paula Allred his love of nature, music, social justice, cats, and entrepreneurial adventures. Richard's interest in the outdoor world of forest, flowers, trees, and astronomy connected with Paula's interests in walking in the woods, camping, bicycling, kayaking. Richard had many practical skills which included woodworking, gardening, and excellent financial management. Many evenings were spent listening to classical music or dancing to favorite 60's oldies, reading poetry, discussing films, laughing at "The Simpsons". He had a clever sense of humor. Throughout these activities of life they were both involved in the human struggle to learn and understand about each other and themselves and spent much time talking together.

In his later years, he worked as a library assistant at Western Michigan University, which gave him ready access to the varied ideas in the books that he so voraciously devoured. In science and philosophy, he valued reason and clarity above all, including the demand for evidence before belief. On the other hand, he was well aware of the influence of unconscious emotion and motivation (Freud) and false consciousness (Karl Marx). In religion, he subscribed to the social gospel of Jesus and its modern pragmatic expression by Tolstoy, and rejected the dogma of official Pauline Christianity and the seductive appeal of mysticism as expressed in Japanese Zen philosophy. He rejected a judgmental "parent-in-the-sky" deity who presides over heaven and hell and an imaginary afterlife. He considered himself an atheist since high school; yet he was fully sensitive to, and appreciative of, the transcendent mystery and majesty of the world. He was always looking for connections - between ideas and between people. He always valued commonalities more than differences.

He is survived by his wife Paula Allred, his sister Nancy J. Morgan, his brother Carter D. Mehl, his sister-in-law Anitra Balzer Mehl, and his three nieces Amanda, Ursula and Sophia Mehl.

A memorial to celebrate his life will be held on Saturday, November 9th, 2013 at Kalamazoo Friend's Meeting -508 Denner Street, Kalamazoo, MI 49006. 3:30 PM.

Memorial contributions may be made to the Kalamazoo Nature Center 7000 N. Westnedge Ave. Kalamazoo, MI 49009-6309 or Hospice of Southwest Michigan 222 N Kalamazoo Mall #100 Kalamazoo, MI 49007 or West Michigan Cancer Center, 200 North Park Street Kalamazoo, MI 49007.

Rich and Paula felt very thankful for having each other and for the kind and loving friends and family that have enriched their life together.

"Let flow your tears, You may find woven into your grief an undersong of terrible holy joy."
-Unknown

(from the online version of the Kalamazoo Gazette). See more at: http://obits.mlive.com/obituaries/kalamazoo/obituary.aspx?n=richard-mehl&pid=167812149#sthash.dpxU2Y60.dpuf

Thursday, October 24, 2013

LEYM Teen Fall Retreat, 2013

The Teen Fall Retreat for Lake Erie Yearly Meeting will take place November 15–17 (Friday–Sunday) at the Athens Friends Meeting, 22 Birge Drive, Chauncey, Ohio 45719.


The cost per teen at this event will be $20. We do not want costs to be a barrier preventing teens from attending, so please contact Robb at one of the contacts below if you need financial assistance. Monthly Meetings are encouraged to help teens attend, so ask your Meeting for their help first and contact Robb if you still need help.

Weekend activities include: Worship, Farmers Market, Service Project, Thrifting, Out Trip, Business Meeting and Worship

The weekend workshop will be facilitated by Merry Stanford and Peter Wood titled: 'Speak Up. Listen Down.'

Workshop Description: There are always times, even with friends and Friends, when you can feel uncomfortable with something that's going on around you. Should you say something? And if you do, what? And what if someone says something uncomfortable to you? How do you respond? This workshop is about learning to speak what is on your mind in such a way that others can hear you. You will also learn to listen in a way that helps you understand, maybe even deeply, where another person is coming from. These are skills that help any relationship thrive, whether with a friend, a boyfriend/girlfriend, a parent, a sibling, a teacher. ... or each other.

During First Day School on Sunday a member of Athens Meeting has offered to speak to our teens on the draft/military service and conscientious objection.

Click here to register.

Or send an email to: leymteenretreats@gmail.com or to: rlyurisko@gmail.com or call 614-286-4829 with any questions about the weekend, registration or transportation.

Sunday, October 20, 2013

October 2013 Newsletter

LEYM ADVICES AND QUERIES: SELF-DISCIPLINE
That no-one speak evil of another, neither judge one against another; but rather judge this, that none put a stumbling block or occasion to fall in his brother’s way.—Epistle from the Elders at Balby, 1656
Friends, whatever ye are addicted to, the tempter will come in that thing; and when he can trouble you, then he gets advantage over you, and then you are gone. Stand still in that which is pure.—George Fox, Epistle 10, 1652.
In our daily lives, do we endeavor to express the spirit and teachings of Jesus? When speaking about other people, do our words reflect respect? Do we express our opinions with courage, yet with love and humility, mindful of the Divine spirit in everyone and open to the opportunity to learn from others? Are we willing to admit that we may be wrong?

Do we seek to attain the highest standards of personal conduct? Do we refrain from habits, activities, and words likely to cause harm? Do I avoid undue attachment to substances and possessions? How am I dealing with addictions in myself and others? Do I refrain from membership in organizations whose purposes and methods compromise our testimonies? How does the Meeting support Friends struggling with these issues?

How do I maintain simplicity, moderation, and honesty in my speech, my manner of living, and my daily work? In following my vocation, what are my contributions to the well-being of the larger community? Do I have respect for all honest work, paid or unpaid, whether at home or in the community? Do I keep a right balance between my work and other aspects of my life such as worship, play, and other healthy activities?

LEYM’s Advices & Queries, for Use by Individual Friends, Meetings, and Worship Groups is available online.

October—November Greeters (subject to change) 
October 6: Marston
October 13: Holadays
October 20: Rangers
October 27: Holadays
November 3: Akkerhuis / Buchman
November 10: Marston
November 17: [VOLUNTEER NEEDED]
November 24: Rangers


On the Calendar
Oct. 13: Worship in the manner of Friends at the Bradley Indian Mission at 6:00 p.m. Potluck dinner follows. 695 128th Ave Shelbyville, MI 49344. For more information call Scot and Jenn at 269-792-9183.
 
News and Notes
Sandhill CSA is raising pastured poultry turkeys for seasonal dinners. Those who donate $100 to IGE (Institute for Global Education) will receive a turkey from Sandhill CSA. Talk to Scot and Jenn (269-792-9183) for more information.

Grand Rapids will host an eminent scholar of early Christianity October 15 during the 2013 West Michigan Consortium Conference at Calvin Theological Seminary. This year’s topic is Religious Polemics and Religious Fairness. The keynote speaker will be Dr. Margaret Mitchell, dean of the University of Chicago Divinity School and a literary historian of ancient Christianity. Her research and teaching span a range of topics in New Testament and early Christian writings up through the end of the 4th century, with a special interest in the Pauline letters, the poetics and politics of ancient biblical interpretation, and the intersection of text, image, and artifact in the fashioning of early Christian culture. More information is available here.

Please pass the popcorn. Several Friends have discussed the idea of a Quaker-themed movie night. If you’d like to help plan this, or have ideas for movies to watch together, contact Walt Marston or Scot Miller.

Testing 1-2-3

Dear Friends, Our devoted blogger, K. Ranger, has finally been persuaded to give this up in favor of other work. A. Ranger and others will attempt to carry on for the meantime.

Monday, August 12, 2013

August Queries & News


LEYM ADVICES AND QUERIES: OUTREACH

Be patterns, be examples in all countries, places, islands, nations, wherever you come; that your carriage and life may preach among all sorts of people and to them. George Fox, Journal, p. 263.

How welcoming is our Meeting to newcomers? In what ways do we orient and include new attenders? Is our place of worship physically accessible to all? What resources about Quakerism and about the Meeting do we share?

Do we reach out to the wider circle of Friends? Do we support and participate in Friends General Conference and Friends World Committee for Consultation, whose missions are to nurture the entire Religious Society of Friends?

Do we work with other religious and social groups in the pursuit of common goals? While remaining faithful to Quaker insights, do we enter openly into the life and witness of other communities of faith, creating together the bonds of friendship?

Are we open to becoming a Meeting of people from different ethnicities, cultures, and backgrounds who value and appreciate one another? Do we give sufficient time and effort to a mutual sharing with others about the experience and understanding of Quaker worship, service, and witness? How do we discern the balance between not proselytizing and not hiding our Light under a bushel?

LEYM’s Advices & Queries, for Use by Individual Friends, Meetings, and Worship Groups is available online at http://leymquaker.files.wordpress.com/2012/06/aq3f2.pdf.

On the Calendar
  • August 18: After meeting for worship, Emma Seif will share her recent experiences at the Interlochen Arts Camp.
  • Aug. 21-25: The Occupy Movement will hold an international gathering in Kalamazoo. The Kalamazoo Friends Meeting will keep their meetinghouse open around the clock, to provide a quiet place for meditation or reflection, sleeping room for up to 20 people and possibly space for small workshops or meetings. The Kalamazoo Friends will need help to staff the building at all times. Please contact Joe Ossmann to volunteer, at 269-913-4250 or Joe.Ossmann@comcast.net All help will be greatly appreciated.
  • August 25: After meeting for worship, there will be singing and a library work party.
News and Notes
    • Can you help the Miller-Seif family with food needs? During Jenn’s pregnancy they are requesting help with the following: 50-pound bags of unbleached flour, brown rice, whole oats or quick oats, and Michigan-produced sugar or beet sugar; boxes of whole wheat spaghetti and bags of wide egg noodles; home-canned tomatoes and vegetables; whole-grain cold cereal; dried fruit and items to make granola; canola oil; yeast for bread; denim (10 yards blue, black or grey); heavier muslin (20 yards).
    •  Here’s an update on the GRFM Library. Thanks to Amy Ranger for taking the lead with the Meeting’s library and getting us started on some much needed organizing. She is passing that on due to her many Friends obligations. Thanks to Jenn, Pat, and Robert who helped with organizing in July. The southern facing bookshelf is now in alphabetical order by author. The western facing bookshelf is yet to be organized. It houses Pendle Hill pamphlets by number. The sign-out book is found!!! So if you have a book out without logging it, please sign it out. If you have an outstanding book, please return it on the west top shelf so we can enter it into a spreadsheet, which we are creating with Amy's oversight. If you are interested in being a part of this endeavor, ask Judi for ways you can help out.
    • Grand Rapids will host an eminent scholar of early Christianity October 15 during the 2013 West Michigan Consortium Conference at Calvin Theological Seminary. This year’s topic is Religious Polemics and Religious Fairness. The keynote speaker will be Dr. Margaret Mitchell, dean of the University of Chicago Divinity School and a literary historian of ancient Christianity. Her research and teaching span a range of topics in New Testament and early Christian writings up through the end of the 4th century, with a special interest in the Pauline letters, the poetics and politics of ancient biblical interpretation, and the intersection of text, image, and artifact in the fashioning of early Christian culture. More information is avaiable at http://www.gvsu.edu/interfaith. 

    Monday, July 8, 2013

    July Announcements & Queries

    News and Notes
    • Can you help the Miller-Seif family with food needs? During Jenn’s pregnancy they are requesting help with the following: 50-pound bags of unbleached flour, brown rice, whole oats or quick oats, and Michigan-produced sugar or beet sugar; boxes of whole wheat spaghetti and bags of wide egg noodles; home-canned tomatoes and vegetables; whole-grain cold cereal; dried fruit and items to make granola; canola oil; yeast for bread; denim (10 yards blue, black or grey); heavier muslin (20 yards).
    • Would you like to work to make love visible? LEYM is sponsoring workdays with Habitat for Humanity on July 24-25, in conjunction with LEYM Annual Sessions in Bluffton, OH. The work will be done in a Habitat ReStore in Lima, OH, and a Habitat house in Delphos, OH. There will be small and large jobs, something for everyone age 16 and over. Organizers hope to have childcare for little ones. Housing and meals will be arranged; costs will be low. Please send an early indication of interest, with names and ages listed, to Nancy Taylor, 324 Hilldale Dr., Ann Arbor, MI 48105, or contact Nancy at netaylor@tds.net, 734-995-6803. More details about the work project are available at www.habitatlima.org.
    • FGC seeks mentors for new meetings. As part of supporting new meetings and worship groups, the FGC New Meetings Project is seeking seasoned, faithful Friends to serve as members of mentoring teams. Friends who can bring an experiential understanding that the Spirit can teach us together, invite people more deeply into God’s presence, and teach the Quaker way, should speak to Mike Holaday for more details about the NMP and the mentoring teams. There’ll be a Mentoring Teams retreat November 15-17, 2013, at Quaker Hill Conference Center in Richmond, IN. 


    LEYM ADVICES AND QUERIES: THE MEETING COMMUNITY

    Our life is love, and peace, and tenderness; and bearing one with another, and forgiving one another, and not laying accusations against another; but praying one for another, and helping one another up with a tender hand.” Isaac Penington, 1667, Letters, ed. John Barclay. 

    How do we weave our Meeting into a community? Do all adults and children in our Meeting receive our loving care and encouragement to share in the life of our Meeting and to live as Friends? Do we truly welcome newcomers and include them in our faith community?

    As we enter with tender sympathy into the joys and sorrows of each other’s lives, are we ready to both give and receive help? How does our Meeting keep in contact with all of its members and attenders?

    Are love and unity maintained among us? Do we foster knowing one another in “that which is eternal”? How do we come to clearness in dealing with troublesome differences between us, living our faith and acting in love? Do we listen to the Spirit which can draw us together in humility and mutual trust?   

    Do we uphold Friends in their efforts to develop stable and loving relationships? In what ways does the Meeting assist couples and families to communicate, grow together, and rear children in a loving and spiritually nurturing environment?

    Do we support Friends as they meet life’s challenges such as birth, illness, marriage, divorce, old age, and death? Are we able to ask for support during difficult periods? Can we approach old age with acceptance and anticipation, discerning the right time to relinquish long-term responsibilities? Do we arrange the practical matters (regarding possessions, location of documents, burial, etc.) that will arise when we die so that our families and Meeting are not unduly burdened? Are we comfortable with the relationships we will leave behind when we depart?

    LEYM’s Advices & Queries, for Use by Individual Friends, Meetings, and Worship Groupsis available online at http://leymquaker.files.wordpress.com/2012/06/aq3f2.pdf.