Tuesday, February 19, 2013

February Announcements


On the Calendar
  • Feb 27-8: Freedom, Slavery and the Underground Railroad in Michigan: lecture by Veta Tucker.
    Pew Grand Rapids Campus: Wednesday, February 27, 4:30-6 p.m., Loosemore Auditorium, DeVos Center
    Allendale Campus: Thursday, February 28, noon-1:30 p.m., Pere Marquette Room, Kirkhof Center
  • Manitou Worship group is not holding meetings during March. 
  • Robert Foulkes from Manitou Worship Group and member of Cork (Ireland) meeting, will be at the Foinse Research Station during March. 
  • Mar. 15-16: Green Pastures Quarterly Meeting mid-winter gathering, Ann Arbor Friends Meetinghouse, 1420 Hill St., Ann Arbor, MI 48104. To register, reply to Scot Miller (r.scot.miller@gmail.com, or 269-792-9183). Be sure to register by Mar. 1 if you choose to have the lunch provided on Saturday, Mar. 16 ($7 suggested donation), or if you need childcare. 
  • Mar. 24: Next open Finance meeting to discuss the budgeting process
  • Feb. 10: Meeting for worship with attention to business, with a special focus on the Meeting’s finance and budget process. Please see the message from Assistant Clerk Wayne Norlin below.
  • Feb. 15-17: Next visit by Merry Stanford and April Allison. To arrange a time to meet with them, please contact Amy Ranger.
  • Feb. 17: Worship at the Bradley Indian Mission, near Bradleyville. 6:00 p.m., followed by potluck. For more information, please contact Jenn Seif.
  • Feb. 17-18: The Kaufman Interfaith Institute presents lectures by Dr. Jeffrey Shandler, Rutgers University. On Sunday, Feb. 17, at 3:00 p.m., Dr. Shandler speaks on “The December Dilemma: Christmas in American Jewish Popular Culture,” at the Loosemore Auditorium, GVSU Pew Campus. On Monday, Feb. 18, at 3:00 p.m., Dr. Shandler speaks on “The Holocaust on American Television” in 114 Lake Michigan Hall, GVSU Allendale Campus. For more information, please contact Prof. Rob Franciosi at francior@gvsu.edu, 616-331-3069.
  • Feb. 19: The Kaufman Interfaith Institute cancelled
News and Notes
  • Holland Meeting will now hold worship on the 1st, 3rd, and 5th Sunday of every month, rather than just the second Sunday as they've been doing for the last couple of years. The new schedule will start March 3. Yet to be decided is which Sunday to have business meeting. Greg Murray's note: "I hope this increase in meeting frequency will help us to keep more connected with one another and to lead more vibrant spiritual lives, since we all agree that our experience of corporate silent worship is more satisfying than that when we're alone. Please mark your calendars with the new schedule!"
  • Congratulations to Emma Seif! Emma’s story “Walk in the Light” was chosen by a panel of five judges as the best among 295 youth division entries in the first annual Write Michigan author’s contest. Emma read an earlier version of the story to a very appreciative audience at the GRFM’s 50th anniversary celebration. The story is told in the form of letters exchanged by Quaker cousins, one in Michigan and the other in South Carolina, during the Civil War. You can read it at www.writemichigan.org/vote.html. Click on the Youth Entries tab. Emma will receive an award on Mar. 19, and her story will be published.
  • Ministry and Nurture has a concern for those who need any kind of assistance in the meeting. If you know of someone who should be brought to M&N’s attention, please contact Mark Hepper.
  • The Adult Religious Education study group is studying a curriculum for young Quakers entitled “A Quaker Response to Christian Fundamentalism.” It may be adaptable for an adult audience. The group is planning a gathering soon. For more information, please contact Jenn Seif.
  • GPQM’s mid-winter quarterly gathering will feature speakers Chuck Fager and Paul Buckley. Fager is a Quaker author and activist best known for his studies of the American civil rights movement. Buckley is an author who focuses on prominent early American Friends. Fager will speak on the topic “Mystics, Psychics, Skeptics & Critics—The Roots and Evolution of FGC Quakerism,” at 7:00 p.m. on Friday evening, Mar. 15. See his special “preparatory quiz” below. On Saturday, Mar. 16, at 10:00 a.m. Buckley will speak on “What does Elias Hicks have to tell contemporary Friends about how to live a faithful life in the face of the world’s temptations?” On Saturday afternoon at 1:30, Fager and Buckley will discuss “Diversity and Unity Among Contemporary Liberal Friends.”
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A Note on the Meeting’s Budget, from Assistant Clerk Wayne Norlin

Friends,

On January 20, our Meeting's Finance Committee hosted an open discussion regarding our need to develop a process for creating a new Meeting budget. A number of ideas were discussed, and a common theme began to emerge that would involve the Meeting's committees in proposing line items for the budget. While some very thoughtful suggestions were put forth, these ideas need to be explained and explored more completely with a wider group before taking further steps toward an actual budget structure.

Our next Meeting for Worship with attention to Business will be held on February 10. At that time we will again be addressing the Meeting's budget process. I encourage all of you to attend and help us seek guidance from the Spirit on these and other matters that are so important to the life of our Meeting community. I hope to see you then.

Thank you,

Wayne Norlin, Assistant Clerk

[Note: Next Finance Meeting is March 24 following Worship]

Thinking of going to the GPQM mid-winter quarterly? Take Chuck Fager’s FGC Pop Quiz and read Paul Buckley’s description of the crucial role played by Elias Hicks in events that shaped the structure of the Religious Society of Friends in America in the early 19th century.

Chuck Fager’s FGC Pop Quiz

1. Where did Quakers take the first steps toward what became Friends General Conference?

(a) Philadelphia, PA; (b) Michigan. (Hint: It wasn't Philly.)

2. If the original FGC Quakerism were a cocktail, what would go into it?

(a) A double measure of 100-proof social reform; (b) On the rocks of humanist skepticism; (c) With a dash of mystical something-or-other (vermouth was suggested but there's no consensus); (d) And a jigger of pure resistance to church hierarchy; (e) Shaken, not stirred, into a strict teetotaler's mug, and (f) Topped with a big slice of Pre-New Age Spiritualism. (g) All of the above.

3. Which Quaker organization did not adopt a Uniform Discipline for its member Yearly Meetings? (a) FUM; (b) FGC; (c) FWCC. (Hint: It's not a or b.)

4. Where did you find SPICE in the first 100 years of FGC faith and practice?

(a) In a jar in the kitchen, unless it was Old, then ... (b) It was an aftershave.

5. How long did it take for FGC to have a woman clerk?

(a) 20 years; (b) 40 years; (c) 60 years; (d) 70 years.

6. FGC observed its centennial in 2000. When did it observe its 50th anniversary?

(a) 1950; (b) 1942. (Hint: It's not a.)

7. Two of the following measures apply to 33% of FGC Friends. One applies to 99%. Can you spot the 99% marker?

(a) Friend Identifies as Christian. (b) Friend has read all or most of the Bible. (c) Friend listens to NPR.

Paul Buckley on ‘What does Elias Hicks have to tell contemporary Friends?’

The 1827-28 separations are critical in determining the course of development for each of the current branches of the Religious Society of Friends. In fundamental ways, the events leading up to and flowing out of those divisions shaped the Society. Elias Hicks was at the center of the surrounding controversies and is often credited (or blamed) for the separations. To truly know who we are today requires an understanding of the events of the 1820s and of Elias Hicks. Unfortunately, much of what we think we know about Hicks is wrong. Working from transcripts of his journal and letters, Paul Buckley will introduce this fascinating, complicated man, examining the significance of his views to the Society of Friends both then and now.

February Queries


LEYM ADVICES AND QUERIES: SPIRITUAL LIFE

Take heed, dear Friends, to the promptings of love and truth in your hearts. Trust them as the leadings of God, whose Light shows us our darkness and brings us to new life. Britain YM, QF&P, 1.02.

There is a way into silence that allows us to deepen our awareness of the Light and find the inward source of our strength. How do I bring this inward stillness into my daily life, nourishing a habit of openness to and dependence on the guidance of the Light for each day? Do I set aside times of quiet openness to the Spirit, of spiritual refreshment?

Are we open to new Light, from whatever source it may come? What steps are we taking to become better acquainted with the Bible, the teachings of Jesus, the history, writings, and principles of Friends, and the contributions of other religions and philosophies to our spiritual heritage? How do we apply these to our lives and our spiritual journeys?

Do I live in thankful awareness of God’s constant presence in my life? How often do I pray, giving thanks for all the blessings I have received? Do I hold others in the Light? Am I open to continuing revelation and the possibility of change and religious transformation?

Does our meeting encourage us to share our spiritual journeys with one another and learn from each other? In what ways do we support one another in order to seek God’s will and act upon our understanding of truth? How does our meeting recognize, develop and nurture the spiritual gifts of our members and attenders of all ages?

From Advices & Queries, for Use by Individual Friends, Meetings, and Worship Groups (Lake Erie Yearly Meeting of the Religious Society of Friends: Ann Arbor, 2012). Find the whole document online at http://leymquaker.files.wordpress.com/2012/06/aq3f2.pdf, or in printed form in the GRFM library at the Browne Center.

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

January 2013 Queries


LEYM ADVICES AND QUERIES: EARTHCARE
If we better studied and understood God’s creation, this would do a great deal to caution and direct us in our use of it. For how could we find the impudence to abuse the world if we were seeing the great Creator stare us in the face through each and every part of it?--William Penn, Some Fruits of Solitude (paraphrased).

When we walk upon Mother Earth, we always plant our feet carefully because we know the faces of our future generations are looking at us from beneath the ground. We never forget them.--Oren Lyons, Chief of the Onondaga Nation of the Iroquois Federation. 

We must join together to bring forth a sustainable global society founded on respect for nature, universal human rights, economic justice, and a culture of peace. Towards this end, it is imperative that we, the people of Earth, declare our responsibility to one another, to the greater community of life, and to future generations.--Preamble to the Earth Charter, Earth Summit, 1992 (endorsed by LEYM in 2009).

Seek reverence for life and a sense of the splendor of God’s continuing Creation. How might we develop and express a deep sense of belonging, a sacred kinship with all of nature? In what ways are we promoting a social order that can be sustained in harmony with the rest of the world?  

Do we inform ourselves about the effects of our style of living on the world around us? What are we doing about our disproportionate use of the world’s resources and the attendant impacts on global climate change? What do we choose to ignore or not to know?  

How might we honor the Earth’s resources by using them sparingly and humbly? Are we careful to spend and invest our time and money in ways that avoid depleting the Earth, but rather sustain and restore it? 

From Advices & Queries, for Use by Individual Friends, Meetings, and Worship Groups (Lake Erie Yearly Meeting of the Religious Society of Friends: Ann Arbor, 2012). Find the whole document online at http://leymquaker.files.wordpress.com/2012/06/aq3f2.pdf or in printed form in the GRFM library at the Browne Center.

January 2013 Announcements



The Grand Rapids Friends Monthly Meeting meets for worship at the Browne Center, on the campus of Aquinas College, 2001 Robinson Rd. SE, Grand Rapids, at 10:30 a.m. on First Days (Sundays). 

Following Meeting for Worship each month:
First First Day: Potluck!
Second First Day: Meeting for Worship with Attention to Business
Third First Day: Program
Fourth First Day: Singing. Advancement and Ministry and Nurture Committees meet at 9:00 a.m.

January-February Greeters (subject to change)
January 6: Holadays
January 13: Kim Ranger
January 20: Roberta Rossi and Judi Buchman
January 27: Walt Marston and Mark Hepper
February 3: Holadays
February 10: Kim Ranger
February 17: Roberta Rossi and Judi Buchman
February 24: Walt Marston and Mark Hepper

Other Friends Meetings in Our Area

Holland Friends Meeting For information, please contact Greg Murray at 616-994-7282, or see the meeting’s website at www.hollandquakers.org. 
Fremont Worship Group For information, please contact Theresa Lindsay at theresa.lindsay52@gmail.com.
Manitou Worship Group For information, please contact Doris Loll at 231-882-7062.
Pine River Worship Group For information, please contact Don Nagler at dfn@pioneer.com

On the Calendar
Jan. 13: Continued discussion of Meeting’s values and direction (Appreciative Inquiry), led by Ron Irvine and Jenn Seif. Note: There will be no meeting for worship with attention to business in January. Next scheduled business meeting will be on Feb. 11.

Jan. 20: Open meeting of Finance Committee, after meeting for worship. Location to be determined.

Feb. 15-17: Next visit from Merry Stanford and April Allison. They are interested in meeting all attenders of the meeting, even casual attenders. To arrange a time to meet with them, please contact Amy Ranger (amy@amyranger.com; 616-453-5029). If you'd like to talk with Merry or April for more information, email <merry.stanford@gmail.comor <aprilallison@firefly-press.net>. They will also be visiting during the weekend of April 12-14.
 
Mar. 14-16: Friends World Committee for Consultation (FWCC) Section of the Americas meeting. Morgantown, Indiana. 

Mar. 15-16: Green Pastures Quarterly Meeting (GPQM) Mid-Winter Gathering. Ann Arbor Friends meetinghouse, 1420 Hill St., Ann Arbor.

Apr. 6: Lake Erie Yearly Meeting (LEYM) representative meeting. Pittsburgh Friends meetinghouse, Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.

May 18: GPQM Spring Gathering. Michigan Friends Center.

June 30-July 6: Friends General Conference (FGC) Gathering of Friends. Greeley, Colorado.

July 25-28: LEYM annual meeting. Bluffton University, Bluffton, Ohio.

News and Notes
Ministry and Nurture begins a new outreach program this year. Watch for special, personal communications from the committee regularly during the year.

The Ann Arbor-based Interfaith Council for Peace and Justice will discuss the book The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness, by Michelle Alexander, beginning January 22 at 7:00 p.m. You can join the discussion in Ann Arbor at the Northside Presbyterian Church, 1679 Broadway. Alternatively, if there is local interest in discussing this poignant title about how race affects life in today’s “colorblind” society, especially in the criminal legal system, the Institute for Global Education may also sponsor a discussion group. Please contact Judi Buchman (judi.buchman@gmail.com) for more information.

    Monday, December 3, 2012

    December Announcements

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    Call for greeters! PLEASE NOTE! We always welcome new greeters! If you feel led to share in this important contribution to the life of the meeting, please let Mike Holaday know (616dash975dash4192, mikeholaday@att.net).

    November-December Greeters (subject to change)
    • December 2: Kim Ranger
    • December 9: Roberta Rossi and Judi Buchman
    • December 16: Kim Ranger
    • December 23: Walt Marston and Mark Hepper (note this change)
    • December 30: Roberta Rossi and Judi Buchman
    • January 6: Holadays
    • January 13: Kim Ranger
    • January 20: Roberta Rossi and Judi Buchman
    • January 27: Walt Marston and Mark Hepper

    On the Calendar
    • 12/9: Voices of Faith: A Concert of Song & Word will be performed at the Fountain Street Church, 24 Fountain St., Grand Rapids, at 7:30 pm. David Lockington and the Grand Rapids Symphony, the Fountain Street Church Adult Choir and the Grand Rapids Community College Concert Choir join forces to explore musical expression from seven faith groups. Experience traditional choral works like Bernstein’s Chichester Psalms to those from the Baha’i and Native American traditions. Adults $20 Students $5. For more information: www.grsymphony.org/concerts/sacred-dimensions/voices-faith-concert-song-and-word.
    • 12/16: Program by the Finance Committee on giving following Meeting for Worship.
    • 12/16: Worship sharing and potluck at the Bradley Indian Mission near Shelbyville. 6:00 pm. For more details, contact Scot Miller or Jenn Seif.
    • 1/13/13: Program instead of Business; Part 2 of Appreciative Inquiry
    • 1/20/13: Finance Committee meeting, open to all, Browne Center following Worship.
    • 1/25-27/13: Next visit from Merry Stanford and April Allison. To arrange a time for them to meet with you, please contact Amy Ranger.

    News and Notes
    • Friend Catherine Deyo sends this message from Gaza: I want to thank everyone that expressed concern for me over the past couple of weeks. A couple of rockets did land about 2km from where I live, but the worst I experienced was some tear gas during a demonstration in Bethlehem. Thanksgiving dinner with friends, there was much gratitude for the ceasefire. I hope all of you had a great holiday with family and friends as well. As the Christmas season begins…let’s pray for more than a ceasefire, but now for peace fulfilled. On the personal side of things I am still working with Paidia and another NGO in Ramallah, the Orient and Dance Theater on administrative and strategic issues. I am coming up on the time I will need to renew my visa, so stress around that is part of life right now. Also, as a volunteer, finances continue to be in the forefront of my thoughts. If you are considering year end donations, I would very much appreciate your support. If you are interested in making a contribution you can find information at www.olivesforhope.com. Thanks so much for reading!
    • What will the Religious Society of Friends look like in ten years? From the New Meetings Project to Quaker Quest, the FGC Gathering and the Quaker Cloud, FGC is bringing a vision of growth and inclusiveness to the world through a wide variety of programs and services to help build and strengthen a vital Religious Society of Friends. Learn more about these programs and how you can help at www.fgcquaker.org.

    A Special Notice Regarding the Spiritual Growth of the Meeting

    Many Friends are aware that Merry Stanford and April Allison of the Red Cedar Friends Meeting have agreed to work with GRFMM for the coming year, to help us come together and resolve issues that have surfaced in recent months. Merry and April spent the weekend among us Nov. 16-18. They’ll return in January. In the meantime, here’s a letter from them. For a copy of “Guidelines for Conduct in a Meeting for Business” or “The Spiritual Practice of Dialogue: Speaking Our Truths and Hearing Where Words Come From,” please contact Deb Wickering or Mike Holaday.

    Dear Friends of Grand Rapids Meeting:

    Thank you so much for inviting us to walk with you on your spiritual journey as a community. We felt very privileged to visit six of your households during the weekend of November 16-18, and to worship with you on First Day. We received your stories, feelings, and thoughts about conflicts that you experience in the meeting, and we heard your hopes for your meeting. We were struck by the deep love you feel for Friends in the meeting, as well as your tenderness regarding the pain being experienced by many Friends. We also observed a yearning among many of you to be faithful to the Inward Teacher, which leads each of us along our unique and personal spiritual paths, and also calls us to the special spiritual covenant of being in community together.

    Many of you grieve for a meeting that you once experienced, and we feel the tenderness of that loss. Yet we also walk expectantly with you as you labor to give birth to a renewed and revitalized meeting. We recognize that this process carries with it some predictable risks For Grand Rapids Meeting.

    We are both experienced in working with groups and with conflict. We have observed that, when in conflict, members of groups tend to behave in certain predictable ways. There are many permutations of these various responses, with varying effects on a group. Friends in Grand Rapids Meeting may be experiencing some of these very normal human reactions to the conflicts you have been experiencing.

    For example, in many groups the conflict might ignite intense and uncomfortable feelings for some, leading them to believe that there is no way to address the feelings except to fight (argue or present ultimatums) or flee (leave the group). Some may blame a particular individual or subgroup for the conflict. These persons may gossip and agitate; some may even try to get the group to control the blamed individual’s or subgroup’s behavior by instituting new rules or creating more structure. Some may experience anger, confusion, a sense of loss; they may argue or leave the group for that reason. This is another fight or flight response. Some may just feel helpless and disappear for awhile without leaving the group. Others will (correctly, we believe) understand that the group is facing an opportunity for growth, and will help the rest of group rally around positive qualities of compassion, caring and group cohesion.

    Friends are no strangers to such challenges. Over the years Quakers have developed a variety of unique ways to cope with the risks of gossip, blaming, leaving and fighting. We offer them for your consideration. Please use these suggestions as you feel led.

    Hold the Meeting in the Light.
    This can be done on a daily basis! You can do this in your own home, individually. But some Friends find that they are more faithful to their intention if they gather together. At Red Cedar Meeting, Friends meet Monday through Friday from 7:30 – 8:00 am, in addition to our regular worship on First Day. We have a meetinghouse, but we know of Friends who meet in this way in the homes of Friends.

    Hold each other in the Light. Are you aware of someone who is in pain? Someone who is confused and angry? Are you angry at someone else? You can hold any of these Friends in the Light, and ask others to hold you. In the words of William Penn, “Let us see what Love can do.”

    Go to Meeting for Worship.
    It is healing to gather in worship with minds and hearts open and ready to be transformed. Sometimes Spirit can do for us what we cannot do for ourselves. If you find it difficult to be in the presence of Friends who make you angry or nervous, come to meeting anyway; perhaps you can personally invite a trusted friend to come with you, in order to bolster your courage. Remember that every Friend present loves the meeting, even if they disagree on what the meeting needs.

    Avoid gossip. One definition of gossip is “casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true.” Gossip does often contain inaccuracies, as well as personal perceptions presented as fact. These inaccuracies and “facts” can spread like wildfire when they become the grist of gossip. Friends’ reputations can be damaged, feelings can be deeply hurt and relationships can be broken through the destructive strength of gossip. The plan for our Year of Accompaniment with you includes a retreat on speaking and listening together which will help us all speak about these matters in transparent, intentional and truthful ways. In the meantime, it is best to avoid casual conversation about matters related to conflicts the meeting is experiencing.

    Speak about your feelings.
    Don’t bury them. But speak of them in a confidential and respectful manner, with someone that you trust to keep your confidence. Understand together that what you are sharing is your perception and your feelings about what you perceive. If your listener also has feelings about the matter, take turns as speaker and listener. And then hold the confidence, remembering that your perceptions are not facts, and that, should your friend agree with you, that also does not create evidence of fact.

    Go to Meeting for Worship with Attention to Business and exercise discipline while there.
    As Friends, we meet face-to-face to conduct our meeting’s business; Friends do not “lobby” in back rooms, as is done in politics, to effect a desired outcome. Our focus is not on solving a problem, or controlling another Friend’s behavior, but on discerning together the way that opens us, as a community, to increased love and grace. We are sending a document that lists behaviors that are common discipline in a Meeting for Business. There are many good reasons to adopt this common discipline, not the least of which is that it prevents storming behaviors while encouraging worshipful behaviors.

    There are two very important reasons to attend Meeting for Business. First, your meeting needs your perceptions and input to eventually arrive at a holistic, communally shared perception of the situation. This can take several meetings. Second, if you are not at the Meeting for Business, you don’t have all the information, and you therefore have laid down your right, at least until you return to MFB, to have a perception that can be taken seriously by the meeting. You also miss out on the incredibly powerful and surprising spiritual experience of finding unity with the meeting regarding a difficult issue.

    We hope you will consider these ways of building love and understanding among you in preparation for our next visit, which we hope will occur in January. In the meantime, we join you in holding Grand Rapids Meeting, and each Friend in it, in Light and Love.

    Many blessings,

    Merry Stanford and April Allison